Why Alison Healy says it’s time to ditch these outdated and regrettable wedding traditions

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If you’ve ever wondered how weddings were celebrated in the past, you might be surprised to learn that your ancestors had some rather aggressive traditions. Instead of confetti or rice, Irish newlyweds in earlier centuries were often greeted outside churches with an onslaught of objects – including oaten bread, turf, old shoes, and, most notably, cabbage stalks. This quirky custom is documented in the Irish Schools’ Collection, a 1930s folklore project, and highlights how throwing objects at couples was once considered a joyful display of celebration.

Cabbages were the most popular wedding missile, and the tradition wasn’t without its consequences. In 1751, a groom died after being hit by cabbage stalks, and in 1824, a New Ross bride was chased by a mob and pelted with vegetables—an attack justified only as an “old tradition.” Although these practices may seem shocking today, they likely stemmed from superstition and the limited availability of other vegetables.

Interestingly, cabbage wasn’t only used for pelting. It featured heavily in Irish superstitions too. You might find it fascinating that people once tried to divine the appearance and wealth of their future spouse by examining cabbage stalks, particularly at midnight on Halloween. Soil on the stalk indicated riches, and the shape was supposed to predict body type. Of course, how accurate this was remains questionable.

Even in literature, cabbage had its place. Author James Joyce frequently referenced the vegetable in various forms, reinforcing its cultural significance. And today, cabbage is making a gentler comeback. Couples in the US are now using ornamental varieties like flowering cabbage and kale in wedding bouquets and decorations, giving this humble vegetable a modern-day twist.

So while you’re lucky not to face the threat of flying turnips or cabbages on your special day, it’s clear that this leafy green has had a long, unexpected role in matrimonial celebrations—and may still surprise you in today’s stylish weddings.